Ownership
Katie commented recently on my post about Possession.
"Totally the opposite for me. The idea of being 'owned', 'possessed' is surely the worst possible feeling for me with jealousy a close second.
What a wonderful writer you are, so 'free' and yet, .. "
It certainly made me start to analyse my desire to be a man's 'thing'.
Ownership and possession are two such strange concepts because I actually find it quite empowering in a paradoxical way. Perhaps accepting and acknowledging my lover's propriety liberates me from the restrictions of my own boundaries.
But, more than anything, I think it is a question of permission. A man can only possess me if I allow him to do so.
Yes, any man is powerful enough to take my body without my consent but he can never gain control of my mind unless I submit and it is that acquiescence which will afford him the greatest satisfaction. To not only be compliant physically but also mentally.
For me, I doubt it could ever happen during a first encounter but could only evolve through a series of interactions and with the growth of a mutual trust and understanding.
To submit by choice is the ultimate expression of confidence and is my gift to my lover. A reward for what he has given me during the journey.
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I think the thing that would feel empowering to me is for a man to want to possess me, to desire me that much.
It seems as though I would have control over him - I am the thing that he desires to possess and he can only get what he wants if I permit it.
I don't think I'd like to be owned or feel that I owned anyone. Yes it's fantastic to have a woman choose to be submissive and even have the tables turned now and then but the only place for such things is in role play in my book.
K - That's certainly a good way of putting it.
Middy - Absolutely. Only in the bedroom. In real life, I like to be the one in charge of my destiny :)
I'm with you, it's the mental submission which is so special. It's also nothing to do with control or ownership in anything other than a bedroom sense.
After all, it's always the submissive partner who holds the real power in such situations. BG x
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