Having my cake and eating it too

THIS BLOG HAS MOVED...

2010-02-07T03:01:00.001Z

...To a new home: http://andeatingit2.com/ You will be automatically redirected in a few seconds. If you're not, please click here to be taken to the new location. Please change your bookmarks and look for our brand new feed! Thank you for visiting!

Toyota Recall - In Car Entertainment Revisited

2010-02-05T20:47:00.003Z

It was about this time last year that I traded in my lovely old Range Rover for a Toyota. With all the current problems, I can't help but be reminded of the fun I had in the old girl and, in particular, this little gem: During the libel trial, the entire court moved out to the car park to watch reconstructions of the alleged sexual act in the front of a Range Rover – once with the central

HNT: The Secret of My Success

2010-02-04T00:10:00.010Z

Looking back, I suppose any popularity that this blog may have achieved has always been down to the appeal of my fabulous arse, which featured whenever I commented. This is really strange when you consider that I had spent the previous three decades locked into a mindset where I loathed it. But you people seemed to like coming over to have a look at it and spending a short while reading some

Mo Mowlam

2010-02-02T04:59:00.002Z

I watched 'Mo' last night on Channel 4. According to Wikipedia: Marjorie "Mo" Mowlam (18 September 1949 – 19 August 2005) was a British Labour politician, who was the Member of Parliament for Redcar from 1987 to 2001, and served in the Cabinet as Secretary of State for Northern Ireland, Minister for the Cabinet Office and Chancellor of the Duchy of Lancaster. Mowlam's time as Northern Ireland

Red Star Trek

2010-02-01T08:49:00.000Z

Bedtime Stories

2010-01-31T13:47:00.003Z

Last night, Ruf and I watched The Reader, the film that won Kate Winslet her Oscar recently. It's such a strange tale, but so beautifully acted by all the protagonists. And it got me to thinking. I know that I love it when Ruf reads me my bedtime story over the telephone when we're apart. To be able to just lie there, in the darkness, listening to the sound of his voice, the words filtering

UnderRated: Learning F.A.S.T.

2010-01-31T05:56:00.002Z

I have two friends who have had strokes and both have made a good recovery thanks to the prompt actions of those who were around them. If you notice any of the symptoms listed, it's time to dial 999. As mentioned in the recent FAST campaign on television, a stroke acts like a fire within the brain. There are drugs that can be given which will stop the spread of the damage. The FASTer you

Drowning in Silence... Revisited

2010-01-30T13:56:00.000Z

After my shower with the Mystic Wand, I was reminded of this: The final night of that weekend is one that will stay with me for the rest of my life. After the hustle and bustle of our friends had gone, it was just the two of us left in that big house. We are used to being together within the confines of a four-room flat and the volume that suddenly surrounded us was quite strange, especially

HNT: Mystical

2010-01-29T21:12:00.002Z

I suspect that many of you will remember my test drive of the MyPleasure Fairy Mini Wand at the end of last year. It became, very definitely, my favourite toy of the year. However, the problem with it was that it was not available in the UK. I spoke to LoveHoney, but there were problems with making the plug suitable for the UK's electrical current. 'But,' they said, 'We do have something

Alter Ego

2010-01-29T12:12:00.002Z

Please can I remind you to change your links and feeds to http://andeatingit2.com Reading MKL's post about Hannah and then contrasting it with the pictures of celebs without make-up, made me think about the situation from a slightly different perspective to my normal zealous schadenfreude at the plastic

An Inconvenient Truth

2010-01-27T16:00:00.000Z

So, ladies, let's get it out in the open! You've just returned from a long weekend with your husband/lover. For two nights and two days, you've made love, you've slept, you've made love, you've eaten and then you've repeated the cycle, over and over again. The following morning, or maybe the day after that, you start to become aware that all is not well 'down there'. It just doesn't feel

Abortion - A Retrospective

2010-01-26T00:45:00.002Z

I often find myself thinking about that baby... that time. It can be the most unlikely things that trigger the memory... and sometimes the most obvious. For more on this, please visit: http://andeatingit2.com Please update your feeds and bookmarks to reflect this. Many thanks, Joanna x

Mute Monday: White Horses

2010-01-25T00:03:00.002Z

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CineKink

2010-01-24T00:57:00.002Z

Hi Guys If you've arrived here, it means that you haven't updated your feed reader or link page to my new home at: http://andeatingit2.com Co-founder and director of CineKink Lisa Vandever is looking for a group of kinky film-lovers to help spread the word about the kinky film festival. I’d love it if you’d read below about her work and check out the website for more information. I’d

Iris vs Gigi

2010-01-22T17:37:00.000Z

I held them. One in either hand, vibrating on maximum and they seemed pretty much identical for power. It's only by doing so that you can appreciate the difference in their physical sizes. And then I realised that I'd never be able to photograph them for you this way.... Read more at my new domain at: http://andeatingit2.com

HNT: Losing My Blogspot

2010-01-21T00:10:00.001Z

Joanna Cake is moving house!!! After three years with Blogger, Ive decided to become an independent woman with my own domain. Lose the blogspot and come see my lilac HNT over at: ANDEATINGIT2.COM And don't forget to alter your bookmarks and feedreaders too!

Coming Soon...

2010-01-20T10:48:00.002Z

It won't be long now...

Letter From America - And How UK Customs Charge You To Receive a Gift

2010-01-19T03:50:00.000Z

I had a nasty shock recently, courtesy of Her Majesty's Revenue & Customs. A very kind friend in the United States had sent me a beautiful gift - an Alaskan Ulu and chopping board. It really is the most wonderfully crafted piece of kit and Ruf absolutely adores it. My friend carefully chose the handle to be made from Alaskan wood, rather than the normal bone so it is completely vegan

Mute Monday: Chase

2010-01-18T00:06:00.002Z

http://www.dl.ket.org/webmuseum/wm/paint/auth/desportes/desportes.fox-hunt.jpg Sorry, not many pics this week, guys. Been working on SOMETHING BIG!!! Hopefully to be revealed later in the week :)

OverRated: Laxatives for Anorexics and Bulimics

2010-01-17T00:03:00.001Z

It was in the news a few weeks ago that moves were afoot to stop laxatives from being available off the shelf in pharmacies and, presumably, supermarkets. Apparently, as with paracetamol-based products and cough medicines, we need to be protected from ourselves and our addictions. I fail to see how taking it off the shelf and making it dispensary-only is really going to stop people from using

A Scandalous Love Affair

2010-01-15T23:43:00.001Z

To A: I shall miss you so much when I'm dead The loveliest of smiles The softness of your body in our bed My everlasting bride Remember that when I am dead You are forever alive in my heart and in my head Harold Pinter to Lady Antonia Fraser Written in the summer before he died In all this snow, I've had time to catch up on this week's newspapers and I found this article in The Times on

HNT: Bottoms Up

2010-01-14T10:47:00.006Z

Hey Guys!!! Come and see more like this at my new domain over at: http://andeatingit2.com "Why do you insist on viewing the anus as some kind of human USB port just waiting to have all kinds of hardware plugged into it?" Mark Corrigan, Peepshow Ruf fell about laughing when he heard this quote. He always views my bottom as his own personal property. He was first in there and it's

e[lust]#5

2010-01-13T22:56:00.003Z

Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you're looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you're going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #6? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site's sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ♦ This

Problems Commenting

2010-01-13T14:22:00.000Z

I don't know if anyone can help me, but I don't seem to be able to comment on a lot of people's blogs when I'm using my laptop. The blogs in question have a comments box like this As you will notice, they are blogspot blogs and I am signed in on my blogspot account. If I use the broadband PC at the house, I am able to comment, but not when I'm using my laptop. Some people have managed to

Joanna Cake's Secrets To Achieving A Healthy Body Weight

2010-01-12T00:20:00.001Z

As a recovering anorexic, I could tell you the most successful fast diets, but they won't help you to stay slim unless you have the willpower to continue with ever more restrictive regimes, until finally you have beaten the sensation of hunger and are eating virtually nothing. In other words, you're an anorexic too. What happens with most people who diet is that their weight yo-yos. This is

Mute Monday: Blue

2010-01-11T00:09:00.002Z

The End of Time

2010-01-10T04:55:00.022Z

I walked home in the snow today and I have to admit that I cried for some of the journey. It was a week later than the rest of you, but I finally sat down to watch Part 2 of the final adventure of the Tenth Doctor, originally shown here on New Year's Day. David Tennant has revitalised the role that was originally given new life by Russell T. Davies and Christopher Eccleston and I am really sad

Bodies Revealed

2010-01-08T20:59:00.000Z

At the very end of 2009, Ruf and I went to see the Bodies Revealed Exhibition.For both of us, it was a very revealing and illuminating experience, particularly given our recent conversion to the wonderful world of yoga.To be able to see the relationship between all the muscles and tendons was so useful, especially as all the bodies were in 'active' positions. Everything had been treated with the

HNT: The Best View in the World

2010-01-07T10:40:00.003Z

The best view in the world from every angle. Ruf adores looking at it prior to diving in and I'm rather partial to looking down and taking in the whole scenario myself.For so many decades, I hated the thought of a man observing me there. Worried about the smell and the taste.Now that my hormones are in complete disarray, I feel as if my innards permanently wreak like a day-old tuna sandwich,

Culinary Throwdown Showdown - Leeks

2010-01-06T10:00:00.002Z

Troll's Culinary Throwdown Showdowns are legendary, with offerings from around the world.This is another one of Ruf's vegan gems, which should be served as an accompaniment to something spicy because it's quite sweet.Leeks and CarrotsPeel and slice the carrots into rounds/coins.Steam til 'al dente'Meanwhile top and tail the leeks and then slice into rounds.Wash carefully to remove any sediment

Letting Go

2010-01-05T10:16:00.001Z

I found this over at Ordinary Girl.I wondered if I'd seen it five years ago, would I have saved myself an awful lot of heartache?Or do I need to have done what I've done in order to truly appreciate the veracity of the remark?Sometimes, when I'm at the house, I do have regrets. I miss the warmth that I tried to build in that home. I miss the sense of family. Of being with my children on a

Mute Monday: Catch (Phrases)

2010-01-04T00:09:00.003Z

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UnderRated: Making Life Changes

2010-01-03T03:45:00.000Z

I just wanted to acknowledge the changes that I have made in my life and the encouragement I have received in those endeavours from some complete strangers, many of whom have become good friends. On Christmas Eve, my statcounter hit 500,000 and I count that as one of my favourite gifts.Thank you to everyone who has read and commented or sent personal emails over the last 2.5 years. I cannot

Illicit Encounters

2010-01-01T20:51:00.002Z

When I was contacted by the lovely people at Illicit Encounters, my first thought was: 'Oooh, tacky!'But, the more I thought about it, the more I realised that this is actually a pretty valuable service for a lot of marriages out there.MsR recently raised the question about whether the decision to cheat was a spur of the moment thing or something that developed over a period of time.For me, it

HNT: 2009 Favourite

2009-12-31T10:03:00.003Z

As usual, I struggled to select just one favourite so, as I always like to have my cake and eat it too, I give you a top three. Compiled through close consultation with Ruf and involving the input of a couple of fervent admirers.Next week will see the start of Joanna Cake's Brave New World. The beginning of a journey that I hope will allow me to become a woman of independent means.I shall be

Pleasurists #58

2009-12-30T23:57:00.000Z

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.Did you miss Pleasurists #57? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #59? Use our submission form and submit it before Sunday December 27th at 11:59pm PST. Be sure to read our submission guidelines.Want to win

e[lust] #4

2009-12-29T23:08:00.000Z

Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you're looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you're going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #5? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site's sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!♦ This

Undisclosed Desires

2009-12-28T17:50:00.000Z

Kneeling between my legs, he admired my nakedness.Commented on my fabulous nipples and glorious breasts.The kissability of my flat stomach.And the wonder of my cunt as his fingers caressed it.Comparing and contrasting with the previous night when I had arrived, tense and exhausted from an emotional week full of family trauma and compounded by a three hour rain lashed drive along Britain's

Gender Benders..

2009-12-27T10:26:00.001Z

Further to my post on the perineal raphe, Softboy found this article in the Telegraph:Researchers have found that the body is in a constant fight to remain either female or male and the suppression of just one gene could cause it to "flip" from one to the other. The remarkable findings refute the generally held view that sex is determined at birth and is irreversible in later life. They could

HNT: 3 Christmas Wishes

2009-12-24T10:03:00.003Z

This time four years ago, Ruf and I discovered that we both share the same favourite Christmas song.We've been through some trials and tribulations but, finally, this year, we get to spend the days up to and including Christmas Eve together.For non-mousers, click hereI really hope that at least three other bloggers can find the same happiness.

What's that line on my Scrotum? How it can affect your gender/sexuality

2009-12-22T10:20:00.002Z

As a woman, I'm naturally very appreciative, as well as curious, about the male anatomical design and I've always been fascinated by the slightly raised line that seems to be the join of the ball sack but it was my friend, Softboy, who explained to me exactly what it was all about.Known as the perineal raphe, it extends from the anus, through the mid-line of the scrotum (where it becomes the

Mute Monday: The Year in Review

2009-12-21T00:08:00.004Z

Times Letter Reunites Wartime Couple

2009-12-20T10:21:00.001Z

I posted this story recently because it really touched me.Last weekend, they published an update article, which I thought some of you might enjoy.The last time that Harold Pettinger saw Dorothy Eastwood was on a station platform in Cape Town 68 years ago, the tearful end of a wartime romance that was always destined to end in such a parting.Two young people thrown together by fate — he was a 20-

Let there be love

2009-12-18T21:26:00.000Z

Was it just coincidence that this song was playing on the radio?Whatever, it made the perfect backdrop to the conclusion of a session of lovemaking where we both put into practice what we had been learning through our pelvic floor researches.For me, it's been thinking about lengthening my spine; pushing my coccyx downwards so as to engage the mulabandha (core muscles), combined with consistent

HNT: Christmas Tree

2009-12-17T10:01:00.003Z

If you look really closely, you can see my Star Trek Christmas tree decoration on the right. I think it's meant to be Dr McCoy but it could also be Mr Spock...I'm waiting for Ruf, who will be arriving on Monday to stay for a few days and we will be able to be together for a few hours on Christmas Eve morning and then meet up again on Boxing Day afternoon.It's not Christmas Day together, because

e[lust] #3

2009-12-16T23:59:00.001Z

Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in the next edition? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!♦

Joanna Cake's Xmas Top Ten

2009-12-15T10:56:00.004Z

The Fairy Wand from MyPleasure. All the oomph of the Hitachi Magic Wand in a compact and controllable mini-version. What's not to like?The Kegel 8 Tight & Tone from Stress No More. If you set aside 10 minutes a day a couple of times a week, you will tighten your vagina and pelvic floor muscles sufficiently to enable you to give and receive the most amazing orgasms.I know it's cheating to put

Mute Monday: Star Men

2009-12-14T00:07:00.002Z

Ritalin for two year olds...?

2009-12-13T10:04:00.001Z

I am not the first mother to have had her pre-school child fast-tracked to a shaky diagnosis [of Ritalin]. Two mothers told me of similar experiences. Six years ago, Clare, a mother of three, was told by a nursery school teacher that her three-year-old son had suspected Asperger's syndrome, a form of autism, because he was so difficult to control. "They pushed for him to be referred," she

Toy of the Year - Waving the Fairy Wand

2009-12-11T23:55:00.003Z

This is one of those toys!Highly satisfactory for use as a couple and truly exceptional when you're flying solo.The Fairy Wand from MyPleasure is a mini version of the Hitachi Magic Wand.The same circular spinning end and with a nice range of attachments to slip onto it. But, the most important point to stress is the POWER. The OMG! factor. At only about eight inches long and an inch in

HNT: Lady in Red

2009-12-10T10:13:00.006Z

The lovely people at sexy-girls lingerie sent me this little beauty for Christmas. The pants were a little generous but I think the rest of the ensemble shows off my assets rather well. However, despite some frantic searching, Ruf just couldn't lay his hands on a Santa hat to complete the outfit.It was a wonderful weekend. The sex was just amazing but, more than that, it was the intimacy.You

Pleasurists #56

2009-12-09T23:58:00.000Z

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.Did you miss Pleasurists #55? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #57? Use our submission form and submit it before Sunday December 13th at 11:59pm PST. Be sure to read our submission guidelines.Want to win

Practical Parenting

2009-12-08T10:45:00.000Z

"I know you love them but sometimes you find them so entertaining that you forget to parent them. This is important. When they were little and they would act out and we would say, 'Relax, they're young. When they're older, they'll get it'...? "Well, Tom, they're 16 now... and not getting it."We have a lot of work to do in a very short time and if you and I are not in synch, then I am afraid

Mute Monday: Psychology

2009-12-07T00:07:00.000Z

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Romance in The Times

2009-12-06T10:52:00.000Z

I found this letter in The Times on Saturday 28 November and, knowing what a soppy bunch we all are, I thought you might enjoy it too:Sir, Letters published in The Times can have surprising results.You published my letter last year concerning my father’s visit to the Field of Remembrance at Westminster Abbey, when both cab drivers refused to take fares from a bemedalled war veteran. The letter

Cuntercise: the Kegel8 Update

2009-12-04T23:00:00.003Z

I think the question we all need to ask ourselves as women is: Do I want to give and receive better orgasms? If the answer is 'yes', then we need to actually start putting in place an exercise regime that will help us to achieve this goal.We need to focus on cuntercising!I'm ashamed to say that, over the summer and autumn I didn't use my Kegel 8 as regularly as I had previously.The stresses and

HNT: December

2009-12-03T09:32:00.001Z

Well, it is December! Advent calendars were purchased weeks ago and the little windows are now being opened with their chocolate contents munched happily before breakfast. Holly wreaths are appearing in doorways and lights festoon many of the houses locally, so it's traditional for me to start to get all our own festive trimmings out.Of course, all these familiar preparations bring home to me

e[lust] #2

2009-12-02T23:22:00.001Z

Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you're looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you're going to find it here. Want to be included in the next edition? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site's sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ♦

Morning

2009-12-01T10:22:00.001Z

I love waking up in his bed.The soft light coming through the curtained window and my body flat on the futon where I have discarded the slimmest of pillows that I ever use here.I am, as usual, in the middle of the bed but my foot strays sideways to find his. To remind myself that I am here. The returned pressure of his flesh against mine reassures me that he too has become aware of my presence

Mute Monday: Travellers

2009-11-30T00:07:00.004Z

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Spartacus

2009-11-29T09:55:00.007Z

It was a wet and windy Saturday here and I was waiting for a friend to come over. I had cleaned the flat and checked my emails so I was at a loose end and switched on the tv. With nothing more productive to do, I found myself flicking through the channels on Freeview. And that's how I came upon Spartacus. The uncut and digitally restored version. It was made by Stanley Kubrik in 1960, the

UnderRated: Tradition

2009-11-27T23:35:00.000Z

Watching the Remembrance Sunday ceremony at the Cenotaph in Whitehall a few weeks ago, I was reminded of the importance of tradition.This service has been taking place for decades and has been televised for as long as I can remember. It is something which I endeavour to watch every year, particularly since the advent of my children.There is something about the ceremony itself which sums up

HNT: Blue

2009-11-26T10:05:00.008Z

It's unusual to get a basque that isn't black, white or red.So, I was thrilled when the lovely Chris at Bondara sent me this fabulous blue and silver brocade corset. It is a little more expensive than others that I have worn but, compared to some of its cheaper competitors, the fabric is beautifully soft and it's really well made. Like the bodices of olden times, it has diagonal lacings

Wonderland: The British in Bed

2009-11-24T10:47:00.000Z

Chris and Jessica, married for 27 years... In a tiny pine bed overloaded with dogs, cats and old resentments, Chris lamented how his wife goes up to the loft every night with a bag of glass beads to make jewellery.After a logjam of heated accusations, Chris finally asked her why she couldn't sit next to him and do it 'on a tray'.'I miss you,' he said, simply.'Why didn't you tell me?' she asked,

Mute Monday: The Local

2009-11-23T00:54:00.002Z

INXS

2009-11-22T06:28:00.000Z

I found this recently and was reminded.I'm still not sure who I am more angry with.My then husband for not making the effort to help find a babysitter so that I could also go to Wembley or Michael Hutchence for making it impossible for that decision ever to be rectified.On the twelfth anniversary of his death, RIP Michael.

Pleasurists #54

2009-11-22T06:11:00.000Z

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. Did you miss Pleasurists #53? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #55? Submit it here before Sunday November 22nd at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed. Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter. Jimmyjane Massage Candle

Zodiac

2009-11-21T03:05:00.003Z

In my search for a replacement for the glass dildo that broke into two pieces when I dropped it in the sink, I was sent the Zodiac by the lovely Chris at Bondara.It's a glass dildo that doubles as a vibrator because it has a vibrating bullet that you insert into a small socket at the base. This means that you can use it with or without vibration.As I knelt on the bed, my torso supported by lots

e[lust] #1

2009-11-20T23:50:00.000Z

Welcome to the first edition of e[lust]! Below is your source for inspirations of lust and sexual intelligence from a wide range of sex bloggers. Want to be included in the next edition? Submission period opens for e[lust] # 2 on November 20th – subscribe to the RSS feed and Twitter for all updates! Check out the submission guidelines and rules of general conduct here. This week’s top three picks

HNT: Relax

2009-11-19T10:51:00.001Z

After a hard work-out, there is nothing more rewarding than a proper relaxation period. Allowing yourself time to just lie flat and empty your mind. To enjoy the effects of your labours as you focus on your breathing and say 'Not Now, I Deserve This' to any thoughts that try to interrupt your concentration.And so much better knowing that, on the other side of the wall and very much squashed

Powerless

2009-11-17T10:58:00.001Z

I lay there, trapped. Naked underneath you in the scrambled bed.Only moments before, there had been mutual passion. Now, there was only fear and pain.The leglock would dislocate my hip if I tried to move it and had already tweaked something badly enough to continue to hurt.I'd asked you to stop but you just kept going.Trapping my head and my arm within the ring of one of your arms and pressing

Mute Monday: The Favourite

2009-11-16T00:56:00.002Z

Star Trek: VOY episode"Favorite Son"

Ultimate Decadence

2009-11-15T10:37:00.001Z

The nice people at Xcite Books sent me a copy of this great new tome of short stories edited by Emily Dubberley. The writers donated their stories for free and a percentage of the cover price is being passed on to MacMillan Cancer Care.Ultimate Decadence is an anthology of 30 erotic stories on the theme of decadence from best-selling authors including Karen Krizanovich, Suzanne Portnoy, Maxim

OverRated: Brokeback Mountain Syndrome

2009-11-13T23:53:00.003Z

'...I understand that a lot of people find the sight of two grown men kissing in public really creepy...' Nick Griffin, BNP, on Question Time, October 2009In our politically correct society, it is not something that people necessarily admit to, even though that might be how many of them feel.Teenagers today are far more accepting of differing sexual preferences and orientations. In their

HNT: Night Vision

2009-11-12T10:44:00.002Z

I have spent the last four years driving up and down Britain's motorways in search of sexual satisfaction.But the network itself has been around for far longer of course. On 2 November, the M1 celebrated the 50th anniversary of the completion of its first section.Whilst it was quite illuminating visiting Britain's first service station and the source of the proverbial North/South divide at

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2009

2009-11-11T18:27:00.002Z

The list is up over at Between My SheetsWith thanks to anyone who nominated or voted for me x

I Love You

2009-11-10T10:03:00.001Z

I finally got around to catching up on the back issues of Saturday's The Times and the week of 17 October was a very rich vein of blog content.This column certainly deserves some additional exposure:Hannah Betts's Things you only know if you're single…that “I love you” may mean: I want to love you; I love this; do that again; don’t leave; I feel I should love you; I love ****ing you; my previous

Mute Monday: Spock Touches...

2009-11-09T00:55:00.003Z

Remembrance Sunday

2009-11-08T10:59:00.003Z

In an era where a large percentage of children in the UK believe that Adolph Hitler is a striker for the German national football team, where people who purport to be politicians deny the existence of the Holocaust, Remembrance Sunday has become such an incredibly important event.The televised sight of the Queen and the Royal Family, followed by the leading Members of Parliament laying their

Disconnect

2009-11-07T10:07:00.001Z

"I'm worried about Kitty. I'm worried about you and Kitty."I didn't see this at first but, Robert, when she talks about you now... She's a little detached, a little clinical.""Well, she's coping...""Or she's pulling away. Ive seen her do it. Right before she left for New York, she and my mother used to have these terrible knock down fights. They couldn't be in the same room together. And then

HNT: Underworld

2009-11-05T10:53:00.003Z

Of course you don't get the full effect without the leather trousers, the boots and the fabulous soft leather full length coat, but such is life and my self-timer just couldn't seem to get all of me in... so here's the leather basque.For non-mousers, click here

Take It Bitch!

2009-11-03T10:30:00.000Z

Mr Vanilla Edge wrote a post last week that got me thinking.He ended with this:Some people enjoy the subjugation aspect of BDSM play. I’ve read of women getting so wet that they actually drip their lubrication when they think about past or upcoming scenes. I’ve read about men who go weak in the knees when thinking about being forced to serve under cruel, dominating women. Some men — and some

Mute Monday: Classic Cakes

2009-11-02T00:54:00.002Z

http://www.jorymon.com/images/2009/june/startrekcake_1.jpg

Question Time: the BNP on Homosexuality and Immigration

2009-11-01T10:36:00.008Z

'...I understand that a lot of people find the sight of two grown men kissing in public really creepy...'Nick Griffin, BNP, on Question Time October 2009This was the statement that confirmed for me why Nick Griffin has been getting so many votes.Even though his policies are indefensible to most educated people, he actually voices thoughts that many repress for fear of not being politically

UnderRated: Fucking the Mind

2009-10-30T23:54:00.001Z

I have only just begun to discover exactly how many different types of orgasm can be achieved in a relationship where there is such a huge level of respect, love and enthusiasm.Clitoral, vaginal, Gspot... all in varying degrees and forms of intensity and connection. And, with my impending Menopause, I have learned to appreciate all of them so much more deeply, because they are so much harder to

HNT: Hallowe'en

2009-10-29T10:08:00.005Z

This was not my original Hallowe'en picture choice but, when I saw that pumpkin, I just knew what had to be achieved.Thanks to my camera's self-timer, a very dextrous Ruf and Photobucket to filter out the extraneous distractions, this year's Hallowe'en HNT was sorted in a few minutes.I'm not an enthusiastic trick or treater because I don't really enjoy candy, but I do like dressing up for the

Cervical Smears

2009-10-27T10:55:00.001Z

Just to remind you, October is Cancer Awareness Month.As part of the rebuilding of Joanna Cake, I decided to get my physical health checked up, as well as continuing to work on my mental attitude with the Counsellor.I booked my cervical smear. It is three years since my last one and, in that time, Ruf's semen has been spurted against my cervix on many occasions. According to Wikipaedia, a human

Mute Monday: Advertising

2009-10-26T00:53:00.002Z

http://www.megomuseum.com/startrek/images/mego_ad.jpghttp://www.antilogic.co.za/images/lifestyle/fashion/airwalk-startrek-sneakers/airwalk-startrek-sneakers.jpghttp://cdx.dexigner.com/article/8079/star_trek_2.0.jpghttp://banbillboardblight.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/supergraphic-collage.jpghttp://www.onedigitallife.com/images/starwars-2.jpg

Rubber

2009-10-24T04:25:00.001+01:00

I can't remember who purchased it - whether it was one of us or a moving-into-your first-home gift - but it appeared in our lives when we bought our first property together. 25 years ago.Over the years, it survived the vicissitudes of being cared for by my less-than-green fingers where other plants keeled over and carked it left, right and centre. All it seemed to require was a bit of water now

HNT: Bodies

2009-10-22T10:35:00.007+01:00

All we've ever wantedIs to look good nakedHope that someone can take itGod save me rejectionFrom my reflection,I want perfectionRobbie Williams 'Bodies'As I reached down to put something in my bag, I heard it.The group of young lads at the table behind me had obviously been there since the party started and were at that stage where they mutter to each other about the other guests in a stage

Validation

2009-10-20T10:33:00.002+01:00

'You have a hole in your heart that can only be filled by a pair of trousers. Face it, Myer, you are weak'Edie Brit, Desperate HousewivesA woman who has to have a man on her arm.Who has only been single for a few months of her life... and then it was because she was dumped.A woman who views validation by a male as her whole raison d'etre so will settle for the most unsuitable model just to be

Mute Monday: Authors who fill my bookcase

2009-10-19T00:21:00.001+01:00

For more on the Morland Dynasty books by Cynthia Harrod EaglesFor more on the many faces of Jean Plaidy

Pleasurists #49

2009-10-18T23:58:00.000+01:00

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #48? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #50? Submit it here before Sunday October 18th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got

Stephen Gately

2009-10-18T10:41:00.002+01:00

I sigh sadly at the loss of the young man for whom I had to work out how to tell an eight year old that her first pop star crush had 'come out' that morning. Although she was my oldest child and led a relatively sheltered life, her classmates all had older siblings who would have been discussing the event over the breakfast table, resulting in all sorts of playground gossip.When she returned

OverRated: The Power of Men

2009-10-16T23:54:00.004+01:00

'If, after years of abuse, you fight back against your husband, make sure that you kill him. If you only injure him, then you cannot use provocation as a defence.'From the BBC's 'Criminal Justice''My husband is allowed to hit me with a stick, providing it is no thicker than his thumb.'From 'The Duchess'The implications behind both of these statements have remained with me long after the exact

HNT: Kitagawa'sThe Lovers and Blog Action Day

2009-10-15T10:13:00.003+01:00

Ruf has had this picture blue tacked to the wall on the far side of the room for a long time. In the spirit of our new-found domesticity, he got it framed and moved it closer. Unfortunately, the angle of the camera on timer makes it look crooked...That morning, all naked and dishevelled, I took the opportunity to use the best possible way to thank my wonderful man for the seismic changes he has

The LoveHoney Sqweel

2009-10-14T10:39:00.006+01:00

When Ruth at LoveHoney> contacted me to be involved in their top secret launch event, I was totally intrigued. I had absolutely no idea what to expect, whether it would be a toy or a lube or something completely different.As soon as I got my hands on the parcel, I got stuck in straight away. The packaging was really nice. Not square, but with the base wider than the top like an Inca pyramid or

Sugasm #175

2009-10-13T10:23:00.003+01:00

I feel very honoured to be a pick on the last Sugasm before it goes on hiatus. However, I do think it is time for a rethink. I submit something every week but, so often recently, I have had to wade through 30-40 posts of mind-numbing sameyness and some weeks I just lost the will to vote altogether. It was almost as if we've exhausted our ability as writers to describe the sexual act in a

Mute Monday: Science Officers

2009-10-12T00:53:00.003+01:00

The Mammogram Debate

2009-10-10T10:16:00.003+01:00

Following on from the Boobie-thon week and Breast Cancer Awareness month here in the UK and, since I now have the results, I thought this was relevant here.As part of the rebuilding of Joanna Cake, I decided to get my physical health checked up, as well as continuing to work on my mental attitude with the Counsellor.I booked an appointment to have my breasts examined at our local specialist Unit,