Sunday, 11 May 2008

Am I Normal?

This week, Am I Normal? with Dr Tania Bryer looked at sex. I think there is a day left for you to view it on iplayer.

There were so many topics covered - cottaging, dogging, our attitude towards children's sexuality in terms of pre-pubescent beauty queens, media images of what constitutes the ideal sexual female.

But the final segment on a paedophile who advocated lowering the age of consent to accommodate his non-penetrative desire for girls of eight years old was the most disturbing.

Leaving that contentious issue aside, there was also a gay man who claimed to have had sex with 5000 strangers and propounded the theory that if there was such a thing as straight cottaging, the queue would stretch out of the convenience and around the block twice. That is, if a straight man could come to a public toilet and stick his cock through a hole in the wall into a woman for free and with no other interaction, it would be extremely popular.

So is this true? If that were possible, would heterosexual men be just as promiscuous?


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17 comments:

Helga Hansen said...

I watched the programme too, and remember being shocked by the last part, regarding the interview with the American and his desire to lower the age of consent etc.

With regards to your "straight" cottaging question... never mind if the men would participate!! What about the women? How many women would be prepared to stand there and be anonymously poked through a hole??

Actually, then my mind went off on a tangent... depending on how thick the "wall" was, would have a direct impact on how successful penetration was, and it would be rather uncomfortable to press your body up against a wall (for both the male and the female)... lol, trust me to go all logical! :D

having my cake said...

LMAO @ Helga. Ive just been talking to Ruf about it and it set me thinking to exactly the same things - the thickness of the wall and how it would affect things even for two men doing it. But also who would want to be poked by an unidentified man.

Effortlessly Average said...

Would a man like the concept? Maybe. But would most ever do it? I hope not. This guy certainly wouldn't. There's WAY too many risk factors with that kind of promiscuity.

Ro said...

Yes, it was a programme that had me hooked too.

I should point out that such "glory holes" are normally for oral sex rather than penetration so that the thickness of the wall is relatively unimportant and, of course, present no need for the person providing the orifice to press anything against the wall!

No I haven't; I read, okay? ;^)

That said, I know that the heterosexual version has its appeal because they, too, exist. I can't really understand it myself though: like EA, I can't help feeling that the risks would outweigh any possible benefits.

I'll stick to Mother Palm and her five willing daughters I think ...

marianne said...

Ugh. No... I really believe that, despite some anecdotal evidence like you've described, most people want some kind of human connection in any sexual encounter, if at all possible, and would only participate in such anonymous situations if nothing else was at all possible, ever. And yeah... the risk factors should be very offputting.

Gorilla Bananas said...

Hahahahaha! If you believe that you'll believe anything.

having my cake said...

EA - But since this is a purely hypothetical question, we're excepting all the nasty things like diseases and just asking, if there were no real drawbacks, would heterosexual men be keen to do it?

Ro - It's alarming how well up you are on the subject - even down to the technical terms ;P

Marianne - I would think the same that most men would want some form of relationship. But arent we looking at it very much from a woman's pov with all our emotions?

Mr Bananas - So talk to us about it from a gorilla viewpoint?

Suzanne Portnoy said...

Gloryholes or variations of them do exist at many swinging clubs. Actually, there's very little risk of catching anything since mainly it's about jerking a guy off with a bit of oral. Unsurprisingly, they are very often the most popular room in the club. Personally, I like them for their anonymity and for all that sexual energy being directed towards me.

Ro said...

As I always say, I am quite well-read. In reality I'm a total innocent ...

Brainiac Chick said...

I certainly wouldn't want to be poked through a wall...and Helga has many good points.

Brian said...

Did you know that the Dutch age of consent can be as low as 12? And yet they have some of the lowest teenage pregnancy rates in Europe. Whoda thunk beginning sex education in primary school would work so well?

Straight cottaging? Well maybe but I don't think I'd like it to be so anonymous. Besides there are plenty of dating sites with a sex focus for that.

having my cake said...

Suzanne - I am such an innocent, I had no idea :)

Ro - Come on, you knew the term glory hole. I always thought that was an untidy cupboard!

BC - It does sound a bit cold doesnt it!

Brian - I didnt know that about the Dutch. It does make you wonder what it is we are doing wrong over here.

Ro said...

You need me to provide a reading list??? ;^)

shinynewtoy said...

Listen, I'm probably one of the horniest guys you'll ever meet but there is just know no interest there. Excluding diseases, scams and any other negatives that would come with it, its just not appealing. I think most men would rather just jerk off. I know myself and I'm much better at jerking off than I am slamming my balls into a wall. I'm sure there would be a small market out there for it, but most men would stay away.

Effortlessly Average said...

I suppose they might, if they were horny enough and knew for a fact that disease wouldn't be an issue. Of course, either the wall would have to be made of cardboard, or only those of the well endowed group could really enjoy said experience. Considering how your average woman views sex, though, I'd be more worried about the kind of woman who'd go for such an arrangement.

Mr. DNA said...

Let me talk to my lawyer and then I'll get back to you...

Kali said...

STDs!!!

I don't think I would do that. There's something scummy about it...