Sunday, 25 May 2008


Katie commented recently on my post about Possession.

"Totally the opposite for me. The idea of being 'owned', 'possessed' is surely the worst possible feeling for me with jealousy a close second.

What a wonderful writer you are, so 'free' and yet, .. "

It certainly made me start to analyse my desire to be a man's 'thing'.

Ownership and possession are two such strange concepts because I actually find it quite empowering in a paradoxical way. Perhaps accepting and acknowledging my lover's propriety liberates me from the restrictions of my own boundaries.

But, more than anything, I think it is a question of permission. A man can only possess me if I allow him to do so.

Yes, any man is powerful enough to take my body without my consent but he can never gain control of my mind unless I submit and it is that acquiescence which will afford him the greatest satisfaction. To not only be compliant physically but also mentally.

For me, I doubt it could ever happen during a first encounter but could only evolve through a series of interactions and with the growth of a mutual trust and understanding.

To submit by choice is the ultimate expression of confidence and is my gift to my lover. A reward for what he has given me during the journey.

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K, the lonely housewife said...

I think the thing that would feel empowering to me is for a man to want to possess me, to desire me that much.

It seems as though I would have control over him - I am the thing that he desires to possess and he can only get what he wants if I permit it.

Midnight said...

I don't think I'd like to be owned or feel that I owned anyone. Yes it's fantastic to have a woman choose to be submissive and even have the tables turned now and then but the only place for such things is in role play in my book.

having my cake said...

K - That's certainly a good way of putting it.

Middy - Absolutely. Only in the bedroom. In real life, I like to be the one in charge of my destiny :)

BenefitScroungingScum said...

I'm with you, it's the mental submission which is so special. It's also nothing to do with control or ownership in anything other than a bedroom sense.
After all, it's always the submissive partner who holds the real power in such situations. BG x